Monday, June 7, 2010
dysfunctional family
is a family in which conflict, misbehavior, and often abuse on the part of individual members occur continually and regularly, leading other members to accommodate such actions.
Dysfunctional families are primarily a result of co-dependent adults, and may also be affected by addictions, such as substance abuse (alcohol, drugs, etc.) Other origins include untreated mental illness, and parents emulating or over-correcting their own dysfunctional parents. In some cases, a "child-like" parent will allow the dominant parent to abuse their children.
A common misperception of dysfunctional families is the mistaken belief that the parents are on the verge of separation and divorce. While this is true in a few cases, often the marriage bond is very strong as the parents' faults actually complement each other. In short, they have nowhere else to go. However, this does not necessarily mean the family's situation is stable. Any major stressor, such as relocation, unemployment, illness, natural disaster, inflation, etc. can cause existing conflicts affecting the children to become much worse.
Well, the reason I am blogging is that some how I am finding myself in this kinda family. Not that my parents are abusing me... Yar... I doubt they can really do much physical damage to me since I am already approaching the big 3. Anyhow, I just feel that they are abusing me emotionally. Let's see for how long?......... Hmmmm I think a good old 10 to 15 years....
Anyway.... I am so not gonna tell the old stories abt the emtionally abuse... Just that I felt that the 2 of them are sometimes so god damn childish... The 2 of them's age add up exceed a century, yet.... Haiz.... Anyway 1 of them I strongly believed that has some fucking disorder.... Loved to be in control. Loved that everyone must obey her.
HELLO!!!!!!
You are not god so you are not born to know everything. Meaning what you think is right might not be always be right... So chill if people do not agree with you, OK! But no...... You always wanna be right... You wanna to win.... Damn it! You dont listen to others especially your children..... So now when everyone is ignoring u. You aint happy... Thinking that everyone is bycotting you..... Excuse moi! U bring this to yourself....... To me, you are a dictator.... So now when I am all grown up and take no bull from you... You cant stand it.....
Not only you... Another crazy.... Please la.... Don't you know that it's easier to forgiven than bear a grudge. Please don't tell me that I am only the sane & forgiving person in this family..... Seems like whenever there's some happenings at home.... I have to be the pillar.... I am kinda tired, you know..... Seriously I am so god damn lucky that I didnt go into depression.... & seriously I bet some of my closest friends didnt even know what the hell I'm going through since sec.
BTW honey, if you are reading.... So for god's sake, pls dun let our future family turn into the one i'm in right now, k? Talk to me even I'm not in the most reasonable moods at all...... Love you....
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